Todd Pettigrew’s Anti-Feminist Gymnastics

So, a male “journalist” by the name of Todd Pettigrew recently wrote an article for Macleans (puke) making in an (unfounded) claim that feminists are blaming children for women’s failure to succeed in the workplace. I apologize if you are all confused by the claim or how one can come to such a conclusion especially with no evidence to back up his claim. This man also does not seem to understand that not all women can juggle children, a career and a very demanding romantic partner all at once without mentally imploding or the fact that patriarchy enforces women to have children otherwise they are not “fulfilled.”  Let’s take a look at this beautiful pile of dung, shall we?

Pettigrew starts the article off with a very unnecessary disclaimer. I call this a disclaimer because he believes that if he says that he is “progressive” then the mean evil feminists will not get on his case about his very misogynistic views on women. He claims that feminists have “lost sight” of what is “reasonable.” If the following does not just scream misogyny, I don’t know what does.

As a progressive man, I see the value in diversity in the academic workforce. I also understand that reasonable employers should take reasonable steps to accommodate the particular needs of those employees. And sometimes that means taking a person’s family situation into account. But more and more, women in academia have lost sight of what’s reasonable when it comes to those kinds of allowances.

Yes, because feminists are the ones that don’t understand what it means to be a woman in Patriarchy or that women make all sorts of sacrifices for their families while men can prance through the tulips with a care in the world. Yep, we are the ones with the problem. It’s  not men or Patriarchy that are holding women back from succeeding, it is obviously the feminists! It is the fault of feminists that women are raped! It is the fault of feminists that women are still poor and prostituted. It is the fault of feminists that femicide still occurs across the world. Might as well pack our bags and head home, ladies. We have been found out. Pettigrew goes on with his spiel by citing a report that has hurt his poor feelings for stating a simple truth: that family life is demanding and this can often hinder their careers. That women who are mothers have a hard time getting their careers back on track because of a baby.

A recent article in University Affairs, for instance, reports on a study by Shelley Adamo who argues that women are underrepresented as biologists because they tend to be seeking jobs when they “are in their late 20s and early 30s and more likely to have a partner and young children. ‘That sort of handicaps them,’” according to Dr. Adamo.

First, as a married man I resent the claim that a husband or other life partner inevitably “handicaps” the career of a female academic. If your special someone doesn’t think your career is important, then find someone who does. And what about the life partners who support their academic spouses by paying the bills while their partner is burning the midnight oil?

This section of the article deflates his claim of progressiveness when he takes offense by a study that had nothing to do with him personally. He is also missing the point. It has nothing to do with the women’s romantic partner or that one is working far harder than the other. It has plenty to do with how the workplace views women who are becoming mothers and are trying to juggle motherhood and their careers. Last time I checked, we live in a patriarchal society. Where women are subjected to unfair treatment for simply possessing a vagina and many of these men who are in the leadership position at these jobs will fire these women for unknown but incredibly sexist reasons. Pettigrew doesn’t seem to know the percentage of women that lose their jobs because the women become pregnant and will have to take maternity leave for a year. There are also cases of discrimination against pregnant women, shocking isn’t it? Not really. Any pregnant woman would be lucky that she would be keeping her job after taking a year off to look after the baby. If he is so resentful to the claim then he should learn to understand that men shut the door in women’s faces when it comes to success in the workplace. Don’t believe me? Live as a woman for a few years then we will talk. Pettigrew goes on to demonize feminists who say that women should not have to be forced into motherhood and that we should not blame children for “lack of academic success.” Which is a straw-man fallacy because we never said that children are to blame for women’s discrimination though we have said that enforced heterosexuality and the “nuclear family” mindset is the problem, not children.

As for children, there are, to some extent, biological realities that would put extra strain on any woman trying to get to the forefront of her field. Still, feminists have been hammering the point home for over a generation now: women control their own bodies and should be able to choose whether or not to have children. But if that’s the case, then women can’t blame children for lack of academic success. If it’s a choice, then women have the choice not to have children if they don’t like the implications for their careers.

For these reasons, I cannot agree with Melonie Fullick* who has made a similar claim to Adamo’s recently in The Globe and Mail about graduate studies more generally.

Fullick, arguing for a more flexible grad student system, writes:

there are plenty of ways a student can get derailed. Some get caught up in other commitments like politics or activism, a job that takes time away from research, or a supervisor’s project that doesn’t relate to the dissertation. Sometimes a supervisor “disappears” for long periods, or decides not to continue working with the student. Personal events can intervene, such as the birth of a child, or illness or a death in the family. Many students struggle with financial issues that compound other problems.

Hey, I see no issue with flexibility in the case of pregnant women. If we can make a compromise for the psychically disabled employee why can’t we do the same for pregnant women? Especially when that woman might have no support systems to help her look after her child when she wants to relax after a hard day of being a mother? What would be the point of hiring her if we are going to at least be considerate of the fact that she might become pregnant in the future? This point is usually never brought up but MEN are the ones impregnating these women and refusing to take responsibility for the child HE created. He can impregnate as many women as he wishes and not worry about losing his job. I cannot testify on being a mother since I have yet to experience it but I will not argue against the point that motherhood is hard and women have to make plenty of sacrifices when she is a mother and a career woman. I sympathize with those women and I can only lend my support to them in situations where they need it. Pettigrew then goes on by stating on of the most misogynistic statements even put down on paper and taking no responsibility for the fact that women suffer where men benefit.

Of course, personal difficulties certainly can impede one’s progress in graduate school. But no one is immune from personal strife and everyone has to deal with illnesses and family problems. Such things would impact anyone in any endeavour. Indeed, the graduate student, with her flexible deadlines and independent work environment, is probably better able to deal with such things than most.

But what gets me is the way Fullick slips children into the mix of things that just happen to unsuspecting candidates: “Personal events can intervene, such as the birth of a child.” By the time a woman reaches graduate school, I expect that she understands the various mechanisms around pregnancy. Forgive me, then, but the birth of a child does not intervene.  If you choose to have a baby while a graduate student, that’s your choice. When I was a graduate student, my partner and I discussed it seriously and decided against it. No child intervened. And we didn’t get lucky. We decided.

Whoop-de-do! You and your partner decided not to have children, did you want a cookie or a gold star for your statement? Are you completely unaware of accidental pregnancies? And Fullick said “BIRTH OF A CHILD!” Not A CHILD but THE BIRTH OF THE CHILD! Are you that daft that you cannot comprehend the phrase “BIRTH of a child”? PREGNANCY can often be very psychically demanding and can also cause serious health problems for women. I am pretty sure that any women over the age of twenty knows how pregnancy works. She also has the right to talk about how it is unfair that women have to start from the bottom after taking a year off to look after a child while a man who has been away for a couple of weeks is in the same position at his job before he went to take a break. Good for you that you and your partner decided not to have a child but you have NO RIGHT to be a misogynistic asshole to women who face discrimination for various reasons, pregnancy being one of the major ones. Pettigrew ends his essay with a much louder misogynistic BANG! with these two paragraphs.

If you do want a child, and it makes your life more difficult—and from what I can tell, it will make your life a lot more difficult—well, that’s the deal. If you regret your choice, you have my sympathies. But don’t choose a difficult path and then rail about how the world has made things difficult for you.

In the end, I have a feeling that most of the women studied are not as upset about this as the writers mentioned. I suspect that they know that they have made their choices, and they are living with them. We should all respect that.

Trust me, I was speechless when he wrote that too. It’s like saying “oh, I am so sorry that you were diagnosed with a body-destroying illness but you shouldn’t complain about it.” or “Oh, I am sorry that you face discrimination for your skin color but you shouldn’t be complaining about racism.” Yeah, he’s one to talk about “difficult paths” when he never walked one in his whole damn life as a white, straight male. He has never had to deal with very claustrophobic social expectations based on sex or race. I guess if he ever meets a rape victim who was also impregnated that the logic would apply in that circumstance too? “You should have known better then to get raped”? He should feel bad about writing such sexist tripe especially since he has a female partner but he seems to have no shame for it and I am not surprised that Macleans has published this piece of trash since they also published and anti-feminist article a couple years ago along with an article about how “empty” the life of a teenage girl is.

I pity supposed “educated” men like Pettigrew. he thinks that since he makes no complaints about things that would never happen to him in a million years that women should not complain either. I am disgusted and I am done with this walking misogynistic black hole of emotionless trash.

P.S. In case he runs into this post: I would like him to read these articles before he decides to publish any more misogynistic crap! Here    Here Here Here and Here

In Which I Can Only Respond With Guttural Throaty Noises

I often wonder what the point is of even telling old pervy dudes that making random and inappropriate comments about women who are young enough to be their daughter is not okay! Especially when she probably did not ask for any comments about how “beautiful” she is? When it is not related to her at all? Fuck!

This is the video that got me in a rage!

Men Behaving Badly (But It’s Totally Cool, Okay?)

Both my hands and my feet cannot count the number of men that act like nasty little shits toward people and yet are forgiven for their transgressions while I can only count on one hand the number of women that are given the same grace for the same crime. This has come to my attention because I recently found out that an emo band called The Used are unable to cross the Canadian border for the Canadian Warped Tour because according to frontman, Bert McCracken, he has criminal record. Even though it could be fixed if they just simply went into the border office with their lawyer and asked for a Temporary Residents Permit to enter Canada. But there seems to be no border that men like McCracken will not cross in order to display himself as a “rebel.”

Nonetheless, it’s just so goddamn embarrassing that these idiots never stopped to think about how their actions could effect their chances of entering Canada. Surprisingly, none of the other countries they have toured so far seem to have a problem with McCracken’s criminal record. A quick skim over to the comments section of this article and you start to see how their fans are defending them for their actions. It is irritating that society is willing to excuse men for their crimes while women get condemned for even so much as sipping on a beer! Yet, we dare call ourselves a ” post-feminist society.” If this is what a “post-feminist society” then I would hate to see what “an equal sexual relationship” looks like.

It’s also apparent in male internet personalities like Felix Kjellberg (AKA “PewDiePie”) can shout “rape” at everything and he gets rewarded with a Youtube Partnership and make millions of dollars from screaming at nothing and bragging about his success. Even if he makes an incest joke, no criticism is made in the comment section of his videos. Whenever there is a critic in the sea of easily entertained fanboys, they swarm like piranhas and defend his actions. The logic of people who are fans of men like PewDiePie is almost inhumane and shocking. Not only that; it is a classic case of the Liberal think-tank of “personal interpretation.” Not only is this argument abused and misused constantly, it is used in the wrong context. That is what you expect from teenagers trying to act intellectual on the internet, teenagers that do not understand the difference between a joke and some Swedish guy screaming obscenities on the internet. No wonder older people think that the majority of the young have ADD. This video demonstrates their lack of logic and reasoning. Bad spelling and all. The crappy part of it all is that a female Youtuber who puts effort into their content and works hard at trying to be entertaining has at least 600 subscribers while men like PewDiePie who puts no effort into their content has 3,000,000 subscribers and counting!

The double standards are so obvious and clear that a young child can spot them. The worse part is that no one except feminists and womanists are seeing this and offering solutions to this bullshit double standard problem. And no one is listening, they don’t want to know about how bad our society is. All they want to see is the positive when the reality is that the negative outweighs the positive. There is a time and place for optimism and it is not when an analysis is being made on societal structures. The time and place for optimism is when positive energy is needed for revolutionary action. The problem is that people are so trained in the self-help mantra of “looking for the light at the end of the tunnel” that they don’t see why the darkness is there in the first place. Self-help books will not dismantle patriarchy and neither will self-help thinking, it’s far too individualistic when individualism is not needed.

If you need more proof of men acting badly just look at this recent case. This case involves the frontman of lostprophets, Ian Watkins, is being charged with plotting to rape a baby! If this is not further evidence of the evils of patriarchy then I have no hope for humanity to actually understand how oppression works. If we lived in a “post feminist” society, stories and reports like this would not exist and if it did happen, the men would be condemned right on the spot. The Independent was smart enough to not allow comments but what would you think fans of this band would say? Would they defend his actions or say that it’s a “conspiracy theory”?

Lostprophets singer Ian Watkins reappeared in court today over allegations he plotted to rape a baby.

The 35-year-old, whose band has sold more than 3.5 million records worldwide, was arrested with two women earlier this month.

As well as being charged with conspiring to rape a child under the age of 13, Watkins faces five other sex abuse charges.

They include conspiring to engage in sexual activity with two young children as well as making, downloading and distributing child pornography and accessing “extreme pornography” – relating to animals.

He was remanded in custody over the Christmas period with two other women – who also face charges relating to child sex allegations.

The pair, aged 20 and 24 from Doncaster and Bedford respectively, cannot be named for legal reasons.

Today, Watkins and his co-defendants appeared in Cardiff Crown Court via video-link.

All three only spoke to confirm their names at the preliminary hearing, a formality in the legal process, which lasted less than 10 minutes.

Watkins was refused bail and remanded in custody with a plea and case management hearing scheduled at Cardiff Crown Court for March 11.

Are we finally gonna reach a point in our society where bad male behavior is condemned the way it is supposed to? For me? I not completely sure especially when the media has such an influence on our young people; influencing them to not a single critical thought about society. You must try everything in short of nearly killing yourself to fit in or you are nobody. Men, it seems, have no trouble of fitting in. They just have to have total disregard for all living beings without a penis (or even non-human beings for that matter) and they are set for the good life. No boundary or line shall be left uncrossed. No crime will go punished. Just make up some excuse or reason for your poor behavior and you will be rewarded. It helps if you have a following of people that are devoted to defend your shitty behavior as an added bonus.

I know that people will try to defend their behavior and say that I am wrong to make such “judgmental statements” on people I do not know.  I will first ask them to consider this, if these men were women and were caught doing these types of things, do you think they would be forgiven the same way? Does the media and the people that control it really care about the sex of the person that committed the crime? If you looked closely and observed, you would most certainly say “no” and “yes.” You will also observe that men are more likely to do horrible things for attention! And no one cares to notice this? They treat these events like isolated incidents? The very sad thing is that there people who will enable these men, who will not sit them down and tell them what they did was wrong and that need to change.

The constant barrage of misogyny needs to end and it needs to end with men recieving the punishment that fits their crime and that there would be no enablers. These men would then learn that their horrible actions against women and others HAVE negative consequences! I can’t wait until that day comes but it will never come if we just idly sit around and wait for it to happen. Nothing gets done if no action ever happens and no change happens if there is no movement.

Reverse Sexism, Child Safety: One is More Important (and Real) Than the Other

Females have to constantly plan their lives around avoiding attention from predatory males and how they can successfully avoid a confrontation without the harassment being escalated into an attack. Males often get very defensive when a woman speaks out against the abuse she experiences from males with the added bonus of being accused of being “sexist” and the little church mice who are within earshot either wag their fingers at the woman in question or they wag their finger at the male. Most often than not, it is the former that receives the finger wagging and not the latter. It is unfortunate that these males feel so entitled to co-opt feminist language and use it against females when criticism of male privilege and power ever occurs in a discussion among females.

Recently, a male named Johnny McGirr (very fitting, eh?) is claiming “sexism” and “discrimination” after a flight attendant for Virgin Australia told him to switch seats with a woman because of a policy that states that males are not allowed to be seated next minors and as bad luck would have it, he sat next to two young boys both aged eight and ten. The poor male felt that he was unjustly mistreated and “discriminated” against for simply being male and suspected of being a “potential pedophile.”  Now, I am not one for false accusations. But it seems that this man feels that he is being wrongfully convicted of a terrible crime that he never committed! Oh, for the love of all that is good! A simple request to move to another seat does not equal discrimination! If you are going to compare A MINOR SEAT CHANGE to discrimination (of which everyone except white, upper class, straight, able-bodied/minded males have experienced) than I seriously hope you have a very logical reason to call it “discrimination.”

Policies like this are there for a reason, to protect children from potential pedophiles who will take advantage of the child’s vulnerability in a crowded space. This male feels that this policy is unfair to him, that the airline should put his comfort before the safety of children. This man’s actions and words are the biggest examples of a selfish entitled male who feels that he can have what ever space he wants and no one should question his demand! As Meghan Murphy from Feminist Current states, sexism will not be dismantled under the guise of protecting privileged fragile egos:

If dudes like Johnny actually gave a shit about sexism and, like, actually wanted women and children to both feel and truly be safe in this world, then there are some things they are going to have to do: a) stop molesting/assaulting/raping/beating, b) stop standing by while  other men molest/assault/rape/beat, and c) stop covering up for and protecting creeps and abusers.

What’s next, you ‘re going to force me to sit next to you on the bus because otherwise I’m sexist? Shut up.

Sexism will not be eradicated by pretending it doesn’t exist. Women and children not being raped or exploited is more important than your comfort. I wish it wasn’t the case that taking the bus to work was a cause for stress. Every single day. But it is. And THAT is because of sexism. Get it? Men raping women and children is what inequality looks like. Being afraid that a man is going to harass or assault us is sexist, yes, but it is NOT SEXIST AGAINST MEN.

It is insulting to call his little moment of embarrassment “sexism” for simply asking him to put the concerns of children (who are travelling alone, by the way) before his selfish need for entitlement. It is insulting that males have to claim that any criticism against them is “sexist” because their precious feelings are hurt! Women and children are harassed, assaulted, raped and abused by males every day! You would think that someone who works in a life saving occupation would understand policies such as this but that doesn’t seem to be the case. Even people in life saving occupations feel entitled to another person’s space and they get angry when the slightest bit of discomfort is mentioned from the underprivileged party.

This man is wasting everyone’s time with his petty cries of “sexism” and “false judgement.” He is co-opting feminist language and using it to protect his entitlement and privilege. He is also disregarding the safety of children who are travelling alone because of a minor inconvenience! Such selfishness from anyone in any situation would be called “morally repugnant” but apparently that is not the case for white males.

Meghan Murphy’s very intelligent response Here

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