A very noticeable trend is happening in the gaming community, of which consists of middle class, white dudes, a trend in which belittles the oppression and male violence that women experience in their daily lives under patriarchy. That trend is the misuse of the word “rape”. What do I mean by “misuse”? I mean, that these entitled, white dudes are using the word “rape” to describe defeating somebody. To the male, it may not seem like a huge deal because obviously he does not have to witness male violence through the eyes of women. He does not experience male violence. to women who live in patriarchy, this flippant misuse of “rape” belittles their experiences under patriarchy, it makes those experiences seem almost meaningless. That seems to be what these dudes want to achieve, they want to make it clear that they are in charge of the gaming community and if any woman complains about it then the men will destroy her with words and psychological games, their suffering is meaningless.
And they know what they are doing is wrong, they know that a woman is going to speak out against their misogyny sooner or later. But they couldn’t find it in themselves to care about women, they want to feel like rebels. They want to be considered as hyper masculine as athletes while maintaining their “nerd” status. They want to be as big a threat to women as humanly possible and they don’t care if they traumatized the woman with misuse of the word “rape.” We have to look no further than the multitude of men making rape jokes during their “let’s plays”. Let’s plays are videos where the player commentates over the footage they have recorded for their videos, they make jokes and other remarks and comments about the game, graphics, voice acting and character design. Oftentimes, these jokes swan-dive into jokes about rape, incest and just recently menstruation, they believe they are so humorous and original when they make these jokes. They believe themselves to be geniuses who “push the envelope” of misogynistic humor. I am not one to fall into the subjectivity trap that “rape jokes” are “subject to debate.” There should be no reason to debate whether rape jokes should be considered acceptable. Rape jokes ARE unacceptable. Period.
But of course, they are men. Men allow themselves to get away with anything without any guilt or shame for their wrongs. They know that patriarchy has raised women to be silent. Men commit the horrible crimes against women yet expect women to see all men as innocent until guilty, as human beings. This is impossible while Patriarchy enslaves women; teaching women to fear strange men while trusting men who are close to us to not rape or harm women in any way. It’s saddening that men have to use such violent language to assert their masculinity but it’s not surprising.
I seriously wish that this wasn’t one of the major things in gaming culture, to use violent language in such a manner but it is and it needs to be acknowledged along with other forms of male warfare tactics. These type of actions are one of the many symptoms of rape culture and it needs to be undermined. No amount of Liberal/Libertarian bellyaching about “freedom of speech” is going to erase the damage or make the whole female population accept this behavior. This needs to STOP and it needs to stop now.
Reposted from my other blog: Life In The Patriarchal Matrix
My fellow Comrades,
It seems that everyday, I come into contact with a manarchist who believes women have more economic, political and social power compared to men in western society. I would like to believe that the majority of anarchists will disagree with this assumption. I call this belief an assumption because there is no evidence that backs up their claims.
They use the example of a few rich white women, who are born into riches and have never worked for there own economic independence in society. They seem to believe that these women have more privilege then them. That these women hold all the power in the world and not the white men-who have more power then said rich women- that share the same class status as them. Nor, do they seem to think that the manarchists in question have more privilege then the rich women they complain about. This is a sad fact that women who are born into money are not more or equally privileged as men. In fact, the privilege the women have received from birth have been given to them by their fathers. Not their mother, their fathers, the ones who have the most privilege. The ones who get away with abusing women because of their economic status.
A concept such as male privilege doesn’t seem to exist to these men or is a myth created by feminists to oppress these poor innocent men and violate their right to fuck any woman they wish without consequence, if the aforementioned women are raped by these entitled men. Anarchist women such as myself are constantly on our toes when a supposed anarchist man approaches us because us anarchist women are wary to their sugar- coated misogyny and entitlement to our bodies. Unfortunately, some women fall easily into their trap and they are surprised when they come out bruised and raped by the men who is supposedly on our side where women’s liberation is concerned.
These men do not support women’s liberation. They are the wolves in sheep’s clothing. They manipulate, lie, cheat, steal, abuse and many more horrible crimes against women. Yet, they expect us to accept them as part of our political spectrum, to forgive them for transgressions against us. I should say that an an anarchist feminist, that we need to realize who the real enemy is. Who we need to oppose and who is not on our side.
I have recently become an Anarchist Feminist and I have known that the are misogynistic creeps in all political spectrums, however I am still disgusted by the male anarchists that claiming that they are for the freedom of people, yet they disregard women’s issues and concerns as not important or the categorize feminism as “a manifestation of daily banality”. This is a sign of men feeling that their male privilege is gonna be destroyed by the evil women that want to take their porn away and actually want the same rights and freedoms as men! What an absurd concept! Women as people!?
In all seriousness, these men are not what I call for the freedom of all people, if they were for the freedom of all people, they would actually include women and acknowledge their concerns, and allow them to join side by side with them in the fight towards equality. These men are one of the reasons why most women stay away from men when it comes to fighting for equality. Men like Bob Black are a poor example of Anarchism itself and I sincerely wish that they were not Anarchists. You can not control a man’s behaviour or their political ideologies unfortunately, so being aware of these men and keeping them out of Anarchist conversation will let them know that we will not tolerate willing slaves to the patriarchy, especially ones that support a capitalist and patriarchal industry such as the sex industry or claim that feminism supports capitalism when in reality it’s just a bunch of men who feel entitled to the women they feel should fuck them, then get upset when the women say no to them. Their poor penises can’t handle it. These manarchists believe that if there is no government then they are now welcome to do as they please and that includes raping women without any consequences because they think that no government equals no ” puritanical morals” to suppress their hunger, both figuratively and literally. They will still enforce patriarchy which is what the state and government represent which is also what these manarchists are fighting against. These manarchist seem to forget that one of the main components of anarchism is freedom from sexism, women and men are both victims of sexism; these manarchists seem to forget this little fact completely and want to continue using misogyny to instill their male privilege over the women who are a part of the anarchist movement.
If we feminists and anarchists of all leftist political spectrums are aware of the misogyny that some of these men will try to perpetuate and try to portray it as fact then we call all agree that these men who claim that they for freedom but don’t practise what they preach are absolute liars and hypocrites. These manarchists and their oppressive idealology need to be acknowledged and held accountable and the manarchists need to know that their oppressive and contradictory ideas will not be tolerated by the anarchist community.