The amount of victim-shaming and blaming that comes from people in the case of rape is staggering. No one seems to blame a victim of robbery or a hit and run. The blame is mostly placed on the perpetrator and not the victim in cases like the before mentioned. What makes the crime of rape so different from other crimes? What makes people think that the crime of rape is the victim’s fault?
Rape is violation of the body both externally and internally. Externally because the body is severely harmed by the attack of the body. Internally because the psychological scars are permanent.
The main perpetrators of this crime are men. Men who want to dominate, to control their victim. Men who feel stronger than their victim and want the victim to be aware of their authority over them. The victim of this horrible crime is a woman in all cases of rape including little girls. Whenever a woman speaks about her victimization in the case of rape, she is immediately dismissed and everything from her attire to how she behaved during that event seems to be somehow relevant to the crime and not the perpetrator.
Over at Blue Milk, the author points out that there is a double standard in the case of rape and the women that are victims of this crime, seems to need to go through a test before society considers them legitimate victims:
For us the assumption is that we were somehow asking for it unless we met some kind of endless test of resistance. Were we sober enough, dressed appropriately, virginal enough, not too flirtatious, did we say no loudly enough, did we explicitly say that we are not into gangbanging, because if we weren’t entirely specific about that point well then how were they to know – they couldn’t possibly tell by the way we just froze up in fear?
Of course, feminists never denied that there are male victims of rape too. However, it is not in the same degree as women and when they get raped and come forward with the accusation, the world mourns the loss of their innocence and their behavior or attire is never called into question unlike female rape victims.
How is it the victim’s responsibility to avoid getting raped? Oh, of course, it is always the case of the woman but never the little boy or the man who gets raped. It is never the fault of the male victim who gets raped by another man or a group of men, it is always the fault of the woman who gets raped by a man or group of men!
Yes, there are women that reinforce this mindset of female victims taking responsibility as well and in my opinion the women should remove that way of thinking. There is nothing worse than a woman who should fight along with us women but instead take the side of the perpetrator. This phenomenon is known as internalized misogyny. I have explained a bit about internalized misogyny in my last post but I will go more in-depth. Internalized misogyny is basically when women believe that taking the side of the enemy will help them avoid being the victim of oppression. An “if you can’t beat them, join them” mentality. Only in this case “if we can’t beat them by fighting against the patriarchy with other women, might as well side with men and join in on the misogyny so we don’t get hurt.” The problem with this mentality is that the women will still get hurt in the end, when the men lose interest in them.
If women can so easily “cry rape” and get men easily persecuted, why do at least 90% of the cases get dropped by the victim? It couldn’t be that there is so much pressure and scorn on the victim that they do not want to deal with it anymore so they drop the case? I mean, it’s not like women ever experience any kind of pressure in any situation, right? Those rotten whores always get what they want! The poor men are always persecuted for defending their sacred right to fuck who they want! They should have a right to not think about the women they harm or kill!
See how harmful those assumptions are? Especially to women and men? Men seem to think that they are more reasonable than women but when it comes to rape and women’s liberation, they always act unreasonable. Hell, they seem to want women to fear them! To dominate them and make women hate themselves for their existence.
That is where the power dynamics between men and women begin. Women go through the patriarchal brainwashing and come out submissive and basically give in when a man demands sex from them. Men get brainwashed by the patriarchy and become hideous monsters who rape the weak and get away with it almost every single time! That power dynamic never ends, women experience patriarchal control in very aspects of their lives under patriarchy and men rule over women and reap the benefits of being the patriarchal rulers.
Rape is the result of patriarchal domination and the victims of patriarchy are what the rulers of patriarchy consider weak or below them. Hierarchical structures are the result of patriarchy and the main reason women are second class citizens under white, heterosexual, upper class men! Patriarchy will not disappear over time while men are still in leadership roles. Women need to be the leaders and strength in numbers are a necessity in order for patriarchy to be defeated and rape will be non-existent.