Todd Pettigrew’s Anti-Feminist Gymnastics

So, a male “journalist” by the name of Todd Pettigrew recently wrote an article for Macleans (puke) making in an (unfounded) claim that feminists are blaming children for women’s failure to succeed in the workplace. I apologize if you are all confused by the claim or how one can come to such a conclusion especially with no evidence to back up his claim. This man also does not seem to understand that not all women can juggle children, a career and a very demanding romantic partner all at once without mentally imploding or the fact that patriarchy enforces women to have children otherwise they are not “fulfilled.”  Let’s take a look at this beautiful pile of dung, shall we?

Pettigrew starts the article off with a very unnecessary disclaimer. I call this a disclaimer because he believes that if he says that he is “progressive” then the mean evil feminists will not get on his case about his very misogynistic views on women. He claims that feminists have “lost sight” of what is “reasonable.” If the following does not just scream misogyny, I don’t know what does.

As a progressive man, I see the value in diversity in the academic workforce. I also understand that reasonable employers should take reasonable steps to accommodate the particular needs of those employees. And sometimes that means taking a person’s family situation into account. But more and more, women in academia have lost sight of what’s reasonable when it comes to those kinds of allowances.

Yes, because feminists are the ones that don’t understand what it means to be a woman in Patriarchy or that women make all sorts of sacrifices for their families while men can prance through the tulips with a care in the world. Yep, we are the ones with the problem. It’s  not men or Patriarchy that are holding women back from succeeding, it is obviously the feminists! It is the fault of feminists that women are raped! It is the fault of feminists that women are still poor and prostituted. It is the fault of feminists that femicide still occurs across the world. Might as well pack our bags and head home, ladies. We have been found out. Pettigrew goes on with his spiel by citing a report that has hurt his poor feelings for stating a simple truth: that family life is demanding and this can often hinder their careers. That women who are mothers have a hard time getting their careers back on track because of a baby.

A recent article in University Affairs, for instance, reports on a study by Shelley Adamo who argues that women are underrepresented as biologists because they tend to be seeking jobs when they “are in their late 20s and early 30s and more likely to have a partner and young children. ‘That sort of handicaps them,’” according to Dr. Adamo.

First, as a married man I resent the claim that a husband or other life partner inevitably “handicaps” the career of a female academic. If your special someone doesn’t think your career is important, then find someone who does. And what about the life partners who support their academic spouses by paying the bills while their partner is burning the midnight oil?

This section of the article deflates his claim of progressiveness when he takes offense by a study that had nothing to do with him personally. He is also missing the point. It has nothing to do with the women’s romantic partner or that one is working far harder than the other. It has plenty to do with how the workplace views women who are becoming mothers and are trying to juggle motherhood and their careers. Last time I checked, we live in a patriarchal society. Where women are subjected to unfair treatment for simply possessing a vagina and many of these men who are in the leadership position at these jobs will fire these women for unknown but incredibly sexist reasons. Pettigrew doesn’t seem to know the percentage of women that lose their jobs because the women become pregnant and will have to take maternity leave for a year. There are also cases of discrimination against pregnant women, shocking isn’t it? Not really. Any pregnant woman would be lucky that she would be keeping her job after taking a year off to look after the baby. If he is so resentful to the claim then he should learn to understand that men shut the door in women’s faces when it comes to success in the workplace. Don’t believe me? Live as a woman for a few years then we will talk. Pettigrew goes on to demonize feminists who say that women should not have to be forced into motherhood and that we should not blame children for “lack of academic success.” Which is a straw-man fallacy because we never said that children are to blame for women’s discrimination though we have said that enforced heterosexuality and the “nuclear family” mindset is the problem, not children.

As for children, there are, to some extent, biological realities that would put extra strain on any woman trying to get to the forefront of her field. Still, feminists have been hammering the point home for over a generation now: women control their own bodies and should be able to choose whether or not to have children. But if that’s the case, then women can’t blame children for lack of academic success. If it’s a choice, then women have the choice not to have children if they don’t like the implications for their careers.

For these reasons, I cannot agree with Melonie Fullick* who has made a similar claim to Adamo’s recently in The Globe and Mail about graduate studies more generally.

Fullick, arguing for a more flexible grad student system, writes:

there are plenty of ways a student can get derailed. Some get caught up in other commitments like politics or activism, a job that takes time away from research, or a supervisor’s project that doesn’t relate to the dissertation. Sometimes a supervisor “disappears” for long periods, or decides not to continue working with the student. Personal events can intervene, such as the birth of a child, or illness or a death in the family. Many students struggle with financial issues that compound other problems.

Hey, I see no issue with flexibility in the case of pregnant women. If we can make a compromise for the psychically disabled employee why can’t we do the same for pregnant women? Especially when that woman might have no support systems to help her look after her child when she wants to relax after a hard day of being a mother? What would be the point of hiring her if we are going to at least be considerate of the fact that she might become pregnant in the future? This point is usually never brought up but MEN are the ones impregnating these women and refusing to take responsibility for the child HE created. He can impregnate as many women as he wishes and not worry about losing his job. I cannot testify on being a mother since I have yet to experience it but I will not argue against the point that motherhood is hard and women have to make plenty of sacrifices when she is a mother and a career woman. I sympathize with those women and I can only lend my support to them in situations where they need it. Pettigrew then goes on by stating on of the most misogynistic statements even put down on paper and taking no responsibility for the fact that women suffer where men benefit.

Of course, personal difficulties certainly can impede one’s progress in graduate school. But no one is immune from personal strife and everyone has to deal with illnesses and family problems. Such things would impact anyone in any endeavour. Indeed, the graduate student, with her flexible deadlines and independent work environment, is probably better able to deal with such things than most.

But what gets me is the way Fullick slips children into the mix of things that just happen to unsuspecting candidates: “Personal events can intervene, such as the birth of a child.” By the time a woman reaches graduate school, I expect that she understands the various mechanisms around pregnancy. Forgive me, then, but the birth of a child does not intervene.  If you choose to have a baby while a graduate student, that’s your choice. When I was a graduate student, my partner and I discussed it seriously and decided against it. No child intervened. And we didn’t get lucky. We decided.

Whoop-de-do! You and your partner decided not to have children, did you want a cookie or a gold star for your statement? Are you completely unaware of accidental pregnancies? And Fullick said “BIRTH OF A CHILD!” Not A CHILD but THE BIRTH OF THE CHILD! Are you that daft that you cannot comprehend the phrase “BIRTH of a child”? PREGNANCY can often be very psychically demanding and can also cause serious health problems for women. I am pretty sure that any women over the age of twenty knows how pregnancy works. She also has the right to talk about how it is unfair that women have to start from the bottom after taking a year off to look after a child while a man who has been away for a couple of weeks is in the same position at his job before he went to take a break. Good for you that you and your partner decided not to have a child but you have NO RIGHT to be a misogynistic asshole to women who face discrimination for various reasons, pregnancy being one of the major ones. Pettigrew ends his essay with a much louder misogynistic BANG! with these two paragraphs.

If you do want a child, and it makes your life more difficult—and from what I can tell, it will make your life a lot more difficult—well, that’s the deal. If you regret your choice, you have my sympathies. But don’t choose a difficult path and then rail about how the world has made things difficult for you.

In the end, I have a feeling that most of the women studied are not as upset about this as the writers mentioned. I suspect that they know that they have made their choices, and they are living with them. We should all respect that.

Trust me, I was speechless when he wrote that too. It’s like saying “oh, I am so sorry that you were diagnosed with a body-destroying illness but you shouldn’t complain about it.” or “Oh, I am sorry that you face discrimination for your skin color but you shouldn’t be complaining about racism.” Yeah, he’s one to talk about “difficult paths” when he never walked one in his whole damn life as a white, straight male. He has never had to deal with very claustrophobic social expectations based on sex or race. I guess if he ever meets a rape victim who was also impregnated that the logic would apply in that circumstance too? “You should have known better then to get raped”? He should feel bad about writing such sexist tripe especially since he has a female partner but he seems to have no shame for it and I am not surprised that Macleans has published this piece of trash since they also published and anti-feminist article a couple years ago along with an article about how “empty” the life of a teenage girl is.

I pity supposed “educated” men like Pettigrew. he thinks that since he makes no complaints about things that would never happen to him in a million years that women should not complain either. I am disgusted and I am done with this walking misogynistic black hole of emotionless trash.

P.S. In case he runs into this post: I would like him to read these articles before he decides to publish any more misogynistic crap! Here    Here Here Here and Here

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Disabled Teen Gang-raped by Students

So shocking that the teachers did fuck all for the student that was being raped! /sarcasm

A 15-year-old girl with an IQ lower than 60 has had a lawsuit filed on her behalf Jan. 11 which alleges that she was gang-raped and nearly sodomized by two male students, and that school officials at Martin De Porres Academy in Elmont, New York knew about the attack and did nothing.

The girl, who is only known by court records as K.J., was the only girl in a class of 13. Because of her special education needs, the state of New York allows juvenile delinquents to attend class with non-offending, but mentally disabled, students. Such was the case with K.J.’s attackers who were both currently housed in Casa De La Salle, a home for juvenile delinquents.

K.J. was alleged to have been held under her desk, while being beaten in the face and sexually assaulted. What is worse, this all happened while there were 10 other students and two teachers in the classroom. As an example it is alleged that one of the teen-rapists danced on K.J.’s desk, while his partner attempted to anally sodomize her. Eventually K.J. was able to get away, and she waited until the next day to tell a social worker at the school. Nothing was done.

The lawsuit claims K.J.’s mother fought with school officials for months, during which she endured countless episodes of abuse and bullying. In a documented instance published by New York Daily News in early December the school placed K.J. alone in a room with one of her attackers so they could “discuss” their problems. The talk ended with K.J. leaving with facial lacerations. Again, no criminal action was taken.

Finally, months after the sexual assault, K.J. was allowed to be transfered to a different school.

Ed Dana, the Executive director of Martin De Porres claims that they fired the teachers involved, and that they take bullying very seriously.

Truthdig Digs Itself a Very Deep Hole.

I have never thought that such a “progressive” website like Truthdig would lower itself. I have never thought that Truthdig would post such an ableist article like what they have posted about Autism Spectrum Disorder (AKA Autism). The article makes all sorts of claims and also misses a lot of important information about Autism and its symptoms. Let’s take a look at it.

The article starts of by claiming that a minority of children that are diagnosed with Autism only carry the diagnosis “temporarily.” Didn’t know that Autism was similar to the common cold. I must have missed the memo on that one. Anyway the author states that

A minority of children diagnosed with autism spectrum disorders (ASD)—conditions that are generally considered lifelong—may carry the diagnosis only temporarily, researchers say.

MedPage Today reports:

“Among 34 children who were no longer classified as having an ASD by ratings scales and clinical assessment, most had similar scores on socialization, communication, and language as their typically-developing peers, Deborah Fein, PhD, of the University of Connecticut, and colleagues reported in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry.”

Call me biased but I can’t take an author seriously if his sentence ends with the word “psychiatry.” Sorry These are the same people who take their teachings from a guy who sawed off his patients limbs in order to “cure their madness” and is considered the “godfather of psychiatry.” I am not joking. This article also never makes the distinction between high-functioning and low-functioning autistic people when the article says “may carry the diagnosis temporarily.” The article might possibly be talking about high-functioning autistic/Asperger’s syndrome. But in the eyes of psychiatrists all autistic people are the same! The author continues by stating the obvious and also missing the point that therapy often does help autistic children when trying to control some of their more harmful behaviors, like biting or bashing your head into the wall.

“The results clearly demonstrate the existence of a group of individuals with an early history of ASD, who no longer meet criteria for any ASD, and whose communication and socialization skills … are on par with that of typically-developing individuals,” researchers wrote.

“How often this happens—and whether it truly does—is still controversial. Some studies have put that figure between 3% and 25%,” the site reported.

Researchers conducted tests in language, face recognition, socialization, communication and other areas in youth ages 8 to 21 who appeared to be free of symptoms.

JUST BECAUSE THEY MIGHT NOT BE DISPLAYING SOME OF THE STEREOTYPICAL SYMPTOMS THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY ARE CURED OF IT! Like I have previously mentioned, therapy does help with some of the symptoms of Autism. It doesn’t cure the person of it nor is that autistic child a neurotypical adult when he/she grows up. Also, autistic adults are very self aware of ableism and in the case of autistic women, misogyny. So, it would be fucking stupid to claim that if they are not displaying some of the more noticeable symptoms then they are cured. If that was true then I would not be easily distracted by background noises every time I am trying to have a conversation with someone. I would not be having difficulty writing exams with the other class and needing extra time to prepare.  Of course, that is not the definition of Autism to the neurotypicals, isn’t it? Autism is not an internal illness that has an effect on how the individual will interact with people and how they will react to stressful situations. Hell naw! Autism is just some phase according to these eggheads here!

Needless to say, I am shocked that they would post something so ableist and ridiculous. Well, they are gonna lose one reader today.

OP here

Truthdig Article here

And Logic Has Left the Building……..

If there was ever a point where I am so flabbergasted by the idiocy of human beings that I have no idea what to type, this would be one of those times. Jessica, a writer on ImperfectParent, demonstrates her complete lack of trying to understand the complexities of society and the gender roles that Patriarchy enforces on children. Her article about a book called “My Princess Boy” is a classic example of people stifling the spirit of children. Not only is her post offensive but the comments in the article are equally offensive but first, let’s focus on the article.

Jessica starts off by titling her article “My Princess Boy: Must our children be burdened with this?” And this is where I facepalm myself really badly. The author is implying that the author of My Princess Boy is trying to torment the poor children by telling them that it is okay to be different. To wear a dress and because a boy is wearing a dress, that doesn’t mean that he deserves to be bullied for it. Same with little girls who are into “guy things.” There should be no double standards here. How hard a concept is that to understand?

Apparently for Jessica, it is very difficult. She cannot seem to understand for the life of her why a boy would want to wear a dress. Here in the following quote, she decides to go the “gender roles are natural” route and falls flat on her face in the process of reaching that conclusion.

The problem as I see it is this — gender roles are a NORMAL part of growing up. It’s a healthy distinction and children are who are not born with a gender identity issue or who are comfortable with their gender, as most people are, shouldn’t be made to feel that gender is interchangeable and something that is only imposed by big, bad people in a big, bad society.

I guess she must have a problem with women with short hair and *gasp* pants? I mean, that is what MEN wear! Men are naturally inclined to beat women to a pulp. Right? Right?!? No, Jessica, social constructs are not “natural.” You are confusing gender with sex. A girl wearing pants and t-shirt does not mean that she thinks that she is male. She is wearing clothes that are COMFORTABLE. The same with the boy wearing the dress or maybe because he likes wearing dresses? But, oh, that is impossible, isn’t it? How could children not always fall in line with Patriarchy? I mean, we are raising them to be the dead soldiers in our society, correct? Those little fags should be muscular and macho guys! Take off that dress! You are a boy, not a girl! *wags a scolding finger*

She also does not seem to understand that, yes, it IS society that is forcing gender roles on children. Unless she has living under a rock for the past century, you cannot go anywhere without some advertisement selling toys to specific children based on “gender.” (Barbies for girls. Trucks for boys, remember?). You cannot go anywhere without some asshole making a misogynistic or homophobic comment and people enabling it. These are not isolated incidents and it is also not “natural” for people to be total jackasses. These events plus many more are a symptom of a very screwed up society. A society built on the degradation and humiliation of the oppressed classes. We make excuses for why we oppress them and it is perfectly accepted and toted a “natural.” To say so, is excusing bad behavior and saying that it is completely okay to bully people. I guess it was perfectly “natural” for Neurotypical people to bully me because I am Autistic? That it is perfectly okay and that it is not the fault of the parents for not teaching their children to not bully other children?

She continues on her very short rant on those silly boys in dresses by stating that “gender roles are a complex idea for children.” Didn’t she say a while ago that gender roles are a “normal part of growing up”? If the concept of gender was so darn complex then why the claim that gender roles are a natural part of growing up?

That is a big, complex idea for children. While my heart goes out to this child and I hope he can find peace and understanding amongst the world of cruel children, however, if you’re going to test the boundaries and celebrate it, you can’t expect to have the world join you. Good, bad or indifferent, there will be emotional consequences as with most choices in life.

Here is something that will blow Jessica’s mind: children are not naturally cruel, they are not some separate alien race that just landed on this planet and decided to be nasty people. You want to know who taught them to be that way? I will give you a hint: It has nothing to do with “gender” and it is not incredibly complicated. Their parents taught them to be that way. Children do not just inherent awful ideas about people out of thin air, they learn some of their behavior from their parents and society. I am pretty sure the boy in the story is just asking the mean kids to, I don’t know, let him be himself? Let him to do what he wants? What? Granting children the same basic human rights is too much work for parents? I am also pretty certain that the boy is not asking the world to “join him.” Whatever the fuck that means. He is saying “I am here. I like dresses. I am no different from you. I am a human being and I deserve to be treated with respect.” I am also 100% certain that he is at peace with himself and other gender non-conforming children. Thank you very much. Is that such an awful burden on children? Doesn’t sound like it to me. Would you, also care to explain “emotional consequences”?

She finishes off her short rant with a phrase that would need a “no shit, Sherlock” button. Her claims that allowing a child of either sex to wear the clothing of their choosing is “politically correct” is nonsense. Her claim is attempting to erase the issue of bullying by blaming the victim for their suffering and not the people and the society that shaped those bullies in the first place. First off, asking children to be accepting of another child is not “putting a burden on them.” How hard could it be to teach children to be compassionate unless you are a walking cold stone yourself, it is not that hard to teach your kids the “golden rule.”

One thing that our children need to learn is not everybody is going to like them and accept them and that’s okay, however, my real issue with all of this is that we’ve come into such a politically correct society that everyone, every parent, thinks that their children’s “problems” need to be every child’s burden to bear and I don’t see how that’s helpful. The world does not revolve around any child. The world does not revolve around bullies, it doesn’t revolve around the child who gets everything she wants and it doesn’t revolve around a preschool boy who chooses to wear dresses.

Wearing clothing of the opposite sex does not equal wanting the world to revolve around them. Wearing is just that, wearing a dress. No hidden agenda or secret plot to turn the world into a gay mardi gras! The book is about a boy living his life as he chooses and his parents giving him the respect her deserves. This book is also about breaking away from the rules of society. If that message is too much for Jessica to handle then I have nothing else to tell her.

Men Behaving Badly (But It’s Totally Cool, Okay?)

Both my hands and my feet cannot count the number of men that act like nasty little shits toward people and yet are forgiven for their transgressions while I can only count on one hand the number of women that are given the same grace for the same crime. This has come to my attention because I recently found out that an emo band called The Used are unable to cross the Canadian border for the Canadian Warped Tour because according to frontman, Bert McCracken, he has criminal record. Even though it could be fixed if they just simply went into the border office with their lawyer and asked for a Temporary Residents Permit to enter Canada. But there seems to be no border that men like McCracken will not cross in order to display himself as a “rebel.”

Nonetheless, it’s just so goddamn embarrassing that these idiots never stopped to think about how their actions could effect their chances of entering Canada. Surprisingly, none of the other countries they have toured so far seem to have a problem with McCracken’s criminal record. A quick skim over to the comments section of this article and you start to see how their fans are defending them for their actions. It is irritating that society is willing to excuse men for their crimes while women get condemned for even so much as sipping on a beer! Yet, we dare call ourselves a ” post-feminist society.” If this is what a “post-feminist society” then I would hate to see what “an equal sexual relationship” looks like.

It’s also apparent in male internet personalities like Felix Kjellberg (AKA “PewDiePie”) can shout “rape” at everything and he gets rewarded with a Youtube Partnership and make millions of dollars from screaming at nothing and bragging about his success. Even if he makes an incest joke, no criticism is made in the comment section of his videos. Whenever there is a critic in the sea of easily entertained fanboys, they swarm like piranhas and defend his actions. The logic of people who are fans of men like PewDiePie is almost inhumane and shocking. Not only that; it is a classic case of the Liberal think-tank of “personal interpretation.” Not only is this argument abused and misused constantly, it is used in the wrong context. That is what you expect from teenagers trying to act intellectual on the internet, teenagers that do not understand the difference between a joke and some Swedish guy screaming obscenities on the internet. No wonder older people think that the majority of the young have ADD. This video demonstrates their lack of logic and reasoning. Bad spelling and all. The crappy part of it all is that a female Youtuber who puts effort into their content and works hard at trying to be entertaining has at least 600 subscribers while men like PewDiePie who puts no effort into their content has 3,000,000 subscribers and counting!

The double standards are so obvious and clear that a young child can spot them. The worse part is that no one except feminists and womanists are seeing this and offering solutions to this bullshit double standard problem. And no one is listening, they don’t want to know about how bad our society is. All they want to see is the positive when the reality is that the negative outweighs the positive. There is a time and place for optimism and it is not when an analysis is being made on societal structures. The time and place for optimism is when positive energy is needed for revolutionary action. The problem is that people are so trained in the self-help mantra of “looking for the light at the end of the tunnel” that they don’t see why the darkness is there in the first place. Self-help books will not dismantle patriarchy and neither will self-help thinking, it’s far too individualistic when individualism is not needed.

If you need more proof of men acting badly just look at this recent case. This case involves the frontman of lostprophets, Ian Watkins, is being charged with plotting to rape a baby! If this is not further evidence of the evils of patriarchy then I have no hope for humanity to actually understand how oppression works. If we lived in a “post feminist” society, stories and reports like this would not exist and if it did happen, the men would be condemned right on the spot. The Independent was smart enough to not allow comments but what would you think fans of this band would say? Would they defend his actions or say that it’s a “conspiracy theory”?

Lostprophets singer Ian Watkins reappeared in court today over allegations he plotted to rape a baby.

The 35-year-old, whose band has sold more than 3.5 million records worldwide, was arrested with two women earlier this month.

As well as being charged with conspiring to rape a child under the age of 13, Watkins faces five other sex abuse charges.

They include conspiring to engage in sexual activity with two young children as well as making, downloading and distributing child pornography and accessing “extreme pornography” – relating to animals.

He was remanded in custody over the Christmas period with two other women – who also face charges relating to child sex allegations.

The pair, aged 20 and 24 from Doncaster and Bedford respectively, cannot be named for legal reasons.

Today, Watkins and his co-defendants appeared in Cardiff Crown Court via video-link.

All three only spoke to confirm their names at the preliminary hearing, a formality in the legal process, which lasted less than 10 minutes.

Watkins was refused bail and remanded in custody with a plea and case management hearing scheduled at Cardiff Crown Court for March 11.

Are we finally gonna reach a point in our society where bad male behavior is condemned the way it is supposed to? For me? I not completely sure especially when the media has such an influence on our young people; influencing them to not a single critical thought about society. You must try everything in short of nearly killing yourself to fit in or you are nobody. Men, it seems, have no trouble of fitting in. They just have to have total disregard for all living beings without a penis (or even non-human beings for that matter) and they are set for the good life. No boundary or line shall be left uncrossed. No crime will go punished. Just make up some excuse or reason for your poor behavior and you will be rewarded. It helps if you have a following of people that are devoted to defend your shitty behavior as an added bonus.

I know that people will try to defend their behavior and say that I am wrong to make such “judgmental statements” on people I do not know.  I will first ask them to consider this, if these men were women and were caught doing these types of things, do you think they would be forgiven the same way? Does the media and the people that control it really care about the sex of the person that committed the crime? If you looked closely and observed, you would most certainly say “no” and “yes.” You will also observe that men are more likely to do horrible things for attention! And no one cares to notice this? They treat these events like isolated incidents? The very sad thing is that there people who will enable these men, who will not sit them down and tell them what they did was wrong and that need to change.

The constant barrage of misogyny needs to end and it needs to end with men recieving the punishment that fits their crime and that there would be no enablers. These men would then learn that their horrible actions against women and others HAVE negative consequences! I can’t wait until that day comes but it will never come if we just idly sit around and wait for it to happen. Nothing gets done if no action ever happens and no change happens if there is no movement.

Reacting to a Dumb Picture

I am not certain whether or not this is a troll or not but since I have nothing else to do today…….

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I don’t need an excuse to sleep around. I just don’t do it.

Good for you. No one said that you needed to sleep around especially with men. That’s the beautiful thing about Feminism:  YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT IF YOU DON’T WANT TO! Of course, the main goal of feminism is to dismantle male-approved hierarchy. In simple terms: women, you can be single and won’t be judged for it! You will not be forced by society to marry a man! Isn’t that wonderful!?

I should have to earn my own way, not have it handed to me through AA

First off, what in the world is AA? Alcoholics Anonymous? Are you implying that feminists are alcoholics? If so, wow. Secondly, what in the world do you mean “earn my own way”? Are the feminists forcing you to hold their hands through a difficult task? Some many questions left unanswered.

I can DRIVE and I can be as successful as any man.

I had to correct your spelling mistake because otherwise I would be horribly confused and you do NOT want to confuse an autistic person! The “successful as any man” is liberal speak. It is impossible for women to be as successful as men because of some biological and social factors. Women are having a really hard time being as successful as men because of harassment and abuse from their bosses and fellow co-workers. This is the result of patriarchy.

Being faithful is my choice. Not the “patriarchy” keeping me in line.

Holy Missing-the-point Batman! The concept of monogamy is a patriarchal concept if men expect women to be monogamous but the same standard does not apply to the husband! If you are forced into a polygamous marriage then there is a problem! However, being forced to be faithful to your husband when he is treating you like shit is a problem too! Men can abuse both of these constructs and women will get shit if they do the same things that their husbands are doing.

“Rape culture” is not a thing

Well, let’s see here: We live in a society that blasts pro-rape sentiments everywhere we look. I see coerced PIV on the TV, music, advertisements, and computer games. And when the woman is raped and she decides to report the rape to the authorities, she is laughed at and not believed by the authorities. Even when the case goes through, the victim is put under a microscope and the media makes all sorts of assumptions about the victims. All of the focus is lost on the perpetrator and the victim is blinded by all the hate she is receiving from people who didn’t take the time to get to know her. I say that rape culture exists and many other women would definitely say so too.

Having to pay for birth control does not make me marginalized

False, it does when the birth control has something to do with your health. I wish we can get a point in society where birth control will not be needed but since we live in patriarchy, we do need it. It is a matter of life and death for women who are forced to be pregnant because she cannot afford health care or the birth control that would have prevented the pregnancy. Birth control should be free to everyone or at least cheap so poor women can afford it. We would be completely missing the point if we left poor women out of the equation because let’s face it: poor women are more likely to be raped and- because it would be impossible to find a job- more likely to be forced into prostitution. So, yeah being forced to pay for something that could save your life does make you marginalized especially if you are already marginalized.

I have EARNED my privilege

Wow, so much insulting language in one sentence. You do not earn a social privilege, it is handed to you the minute you are born. Maybe, pay attention to how people socialize with women of color or indigenous women? Observe how white people react to women of color being pregnant and then compare to how they treat white women. You will be surprised by the helpfulness of actually observing social situations. I have white, able-bodied, middle class privilege but I am also a disabled woman. This means that I do oftentimes have difficulty moving about in society without being harassed or attacked by ableist and misogynistic tropes and ideas that are perpetuated in our society. That means that able-minded people will attempt to take advantage of me and think that I am not as intelligent as a neurotypical person this makes it worse since I am also a woman. And being a disabled woman in patriarchy makes me a walking target for predatory doctors and men! So, yeah, you may have white, able-bodied privilege but that matters fuck-all since men are more valued then women!

Hating men is just fucking stupid!

Women do have a right to hate ABUSIVE MEN especially when history shows that it was MEN who have used rape as a weapon of war to humiliate their enemy.  It was men that forced women to carry unwanted pregnancy to term. It was men that did not see women as human! It was MEN that raped and pillaged Indigenous people and forced the Indigenous women to marry them! To NOT hate them and also not demanding them to take responsibility for their actions id FUCKING STUPID! Heard of “Rape of the Sabine Women”? It’s horrifying shit! It’s also horribly bad when women are constantly told to trust every guy they run into and yet are told to not do anything that would get a rapist’s attention! THAT is stupid! THAT is an overpowering contradiction! “Trust every guy you meet but don’t do anything that would make him rape you or traffic you because it would be YOUR fault!” That is victim blaming! THAT is stupid! Believing that every guy is a sweet little that won’t do you harm? THAT is fucking stupid. Trust has to be earned! Not given away like a fucking gift! You are your own person? No feminist has ever said that you weren’t. It is men that are denying women their humanity!

Gamer Dudes: Knock it off with the misuse of “rape”!

A very noticeable trend is happening in the gaming community, of which consists of middle class, white dudes, a trend in which belittles the oppression and male violence that women experience in their daily lives under patriarchy. That trend is the misuse of the word “rape”. What do I mean by “misuse”? I mean, that these entitled, white dudes are using the word “rape” to describe defeating somebody. To the male, it may not seem like a huge deal because obviously he does not have to witness male violence through the eyes of women. He does not experience male violence. to women who live in patriarchy, this flippant misuse of “rape” belittles their experiences under patriarchy, it makes those experiences seem almost meaningless. That seems to be what these dudes want to achieve, they want to make it clear that they are in charge of the gaming community and if any woman complains about it then the men will destroy her with words and psychological games, their suffering is meaningless.

And they know what they are doing is wrong, they know that a woman is going to speak out against their misogyny sooner or later. But they couldn’t find it in themselves to care about women, they want to feel like rebels. They want to be considered as hyper masculine as athletes while maintaining their “nerd”  status. They want to be as big a threat to women as humanly possible and they don’t care if they traumatized the woman with misuse of the word “rape.” We have to look no further than the multitude of men making rape jokes during their “let’s plays”. Let’s plays are videos where the player commentates over the footage they have recorded for their videos, they make jokes and other remarks and comments about the game, graphics, voice acting and character design. Oftentimes, these jokes swan-dive into jokes about rape, incest and just recently menstruation, they believe they are so humorous and original when they make these jokes. They believe themselves to be geniuses who “push the envelope” of misogynistic humor. I am not one to fall into the subjectivity trap that “rape jokes” are “subject to debate.” There should be no reason to debate whether rape jokes should be considered acceptable. Rape jokes ARE unacceptable. Period.

But of course, they are men. Men allow themselves to get away with anything without any guilt or shame for their wrongs. They know that patriarchy has raised women to be silent. Men commit the horrible crimes against women yet expect women to see all men as innocent until guilty, as human beings. This is impossible while Patriarchy enslaves women; teaching women to fear strange men while trusting men who are close to us to not rape or harm women in any way. It’s saddening that men have to use such violent language to assert their masculinity but it’s not surprising.

I seriously wish that this wasn’t one of the major things in gaming culture, to use violent language in such a manner but it is and it needs to be acknowledged along with other forms of male warfare tactics. These type of actions are one of the many symptoms of rape culture and it needs to be undermined. No amount of Liberal/Libertarian bellyaching about “freedom of speech” is going to erase the damage or make the whole female population accept this behavior. This needs to STOP and it needs to stop now.