It seems that mainstream media will sensationalize anything that a man does even if it is the most menial thing, such as feeding their children or not running over a family of ducks, even if that man has done it for very selfish and egotistical reasons. He will be considered a hero across the board and everyone will adore him for doing the bare minimum for either his community or his family; he is allowed to make severe mistakes and he will receive sympathetic pats on the head. A mother can forget to feed her child for one day on a mad dash to get her child to a daycare and to her job and she will be seen as a horrible mother; she will be subjected to a societal witch-trial and everyone will wag their finger at her, telling her what a monster she is for forgetting to feed her child.
I am not going to focus on the child in this circumstance, not because I don’t think he is important but because the whole media storm was never about the child. The whole thing was about how “brave” and “sweet” the father, Samuel Forrest, is for taking on the role as a single parent while the mother, you know the woman that had to carry the baby inside her for nine months, gets the Salem Witch Trials treatment for wanting to give the child up for adoption. There are various reasons why women would give up their child for adoption or give the child to someone else and the fact that the mother is not given a chance to have her side of the story heard is another example of mother-hate. We never hear what the mother has to say, we only hear the father’s side and apparently that is good enough for the media and everyone else. Mothers have to give up their friends, free time, and peace of mind when they become mothers while fathers can do a very small task and people will congratulate him on being a great father.
One has to wonder if Forrest would be so gung-ho about raising his son if the mother didn’t want to give up the child for adoption and that they did not need huge sums of money? Would the situation be any different if it was the other way around? Would people applaud the mother for being so “brave” to raise a disabled child on her own and would they gladly give her donations if she set up a GoFundMe? What about if the father wanted to give the child up for adoption? We all know the answer to these questions and for those who may not know the answer, The answer would be a huge “no.” The mother would be vilified as some “money-hungry leech” who should be ashamed of herself for asking for a hand-out. As many single mothers will say, they get berated and put down for even the slightest complaint about their plight; to be the pariah in a society that hates her and every mother for the smallest mistake.
The father can be a bumbling fool and people will still love him, a single father is seen as a God who must never be questioned or criticized. I am not going to make assumptions on Forrest’s character as I do not know the man but his actions toward his ex-wife; how he is soaking up all the media attention without allowing the mother to have her moment to tell her side is very questionable. We may never get to hear that side but it’s expected and that is the sad part of this story.